Dating partners with children
They will not contribute as much as me and my wife. They will not feel t he stress and strain which comes from having responsibility.(See: When Dad Works and Mom Stays at Home) They couldn’t handle it, and even if they could, I would not want them to experience it. But I want my wife to be my wife and she wants me to be her husband.
They want to leverage their differences to the benefit of both parties.It does mean they are equally invested, equally involved, and equally responsible.Consider your spouse: Is he/she married to a partner or a child? If you aren’t married yet: Whenever you pick your future spouse, make sure you choose a man/woman, not a boy/girl.One spouse plays the role of the parent: On paper these are marriages, but in practice they are parent-child relationships. (See: The Math of a Good Marriage) The first piece of advice in working with couples in these types of relationships is obvious—tell one spouse to stop being a child.More times than I can count, I’ve looked a man in the eye and told him, “Your wife deserves a husband not a child.
Far too many people pledged to be a partner, but they are acting like a dependent. I will love mine forever, and I love most of yours for about an hour. But I have different expectations of my children than I do of my spouse.