Learning how to be alone (something that horrified me in my early 20s) has actually really helped me learn how to be a better friend and partner. one date every week or every two weeks) and hold yourself to it.
The Rugby Boy and I hit the 6 month mark last month.So I am constantly the third wheel and spent the majority of my early 30s with just my friends and their families every weekend.And starting this year, I had to make a conscious effort to take a step back from driving to the suburbs every weekend and actually put the effort into finding a partner.It’s unfair, but this pressure is more of a reality for women in our current society — and suddenly you feel the need to explain “why” you’re “still” single, instead of being able to live your life on your own terms.We wanted to find out how women navigate the dating world in their 30s, how they deal with outside and internal pressure, and what’s different about dating now than in their 20s.
(My heart was broken when my last boyfriend and I broke up, and I never got to see his daughter again after I’d been a big part of her life for a year.) So, before I go out with a guy, I ask. Most recently, I asked the guy point blank, and he replied that he had no kids. After dinner, when we walked out of the restaurant, I explained that I would not be staying to walk around, and I was going home. I got a text a few minutes later in which he apologized for offending me and not being honest. So I usually decide pretty quickly if I see a future with the guys I date.